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“Seeing that whatever happens in your life is dharma takes enormous discipline.” Chögyam Trungpa

ASD, emotional memory, fears
Emotional memory is a bitch, and people in the spectrum are particularly vulnerable to it.
Let's say that something triggers the emotion of fear in you. You may be consciously recalling some bad memories, you may be imagining a possible outcome. However, when emotional memory comes into action, things are much worse. Your nervous system immediately brings the deep feeling of fear that is associated with the memory. You may even no longer be able to recall the memory, forget it entirely, yet your mind will ceaselessly keep hitting you with a whole set of emotions that you can't control, every single time it happens.
What's even worse, these things add up. Bad memories create fear. Fear creates more bad memories. These memories amplify the emotional reaction — and the wheel turns.
But the worst is the lack of understanding. People telling you that you are being irrational, that you are being an embarrassment to your family, that they have to give stuff up because of you. So the emotional memory becomes richer with the feelings of embarrassment, guilt and low self-esteem. All coalescing into a huge ball of emotion.
Today, you know it's not true. The fear wasn't irrational at all, it's pretty understandable in people who are #ActuallyAutistic, even "typical". Yet, what's the point of knowing that, if these emotions are deeply seated in your memory, and they will haunt you forever, and prevent you from ever having an illusion of normal life?

This is what happens when pro-life Republicans play God - Alternet.org
https://www.alternet.org/alternet-exclusives/pro-life-republicans/

This is what happens when pro-life Republicans play God
I would suggest that, by overwhelmingly passing a measure Thursday to protect in vitro fertilization providers and patients from criminal and civil liability, Alabama legislators are doing more than covering their asses. They are discovering what happens when you play God. Alabama’s supreme court ru...

the capitialist paperclip maximizer recruitment funnel:
It isn't weird that it happens. It's weird how consistently it happens and how consistent the replies are despite coming from unrelated friends. None of them take my actual context into consideration. It's like we've all internalized an Amway recruitment script without realizing it.
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“For millennials and the younger generation Z and Alphas, who may never be able to afford to buy a home or retire at a reasonable age, there is a growing feeling online that hard work is fortifying a system that, at best, is giving them nothing back and, at worst, is actively screwing them over. […] The goal of a softer life is more time and energy for what makes you happy and as little time as possible focusing on what doesn’t.”

In #StarTrek the answer to the age old question 'what happens after death?' is sometimes a simple 'a new life in a different body'. Reason enough to look at this closer for today's #TrekTriviaTuesday question.
As always no googling and no spoiling the answer for others…

What happens when you make a deal with the devil to get research funding.
”Blood Works for Graphene Production“
https://arxiv.org/abs/2404.18045

Last May I interviewed 40 experienced managers to write a "what I wish I had known" article for new managers. It turned into 7 articles since there was so much material, and it has taken me 10 months write them since life happens inconveniently.
ANYWAY. Here's the last one in the series, about resilience. If you know someone who is a new manager, they might find it helpful. (I make no money off these articles -- I'm retired now)

John Schrag - trainer, coach & facilitator - Everything Changes and That's Okay
Tips for riding the storm

It feels like one of those facts of life, doesn't it? Whatever happens, there's just always laundry to do https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-h…

Late Saturday night I threw out this week's (very cute) column about Russia in favour of #Iran-Israel.
Because, as usual, what happens far away in the Middle East can become, in the case of PEPFAR, a life-or-death matter in #SouthAfrica.
Phillip de Wet | SA partner Iran just attacked US partner Israel. Guess how that'll go down
https://www.news24.com/news24/opinions/columnists/phillipdewet/phillip-de-wet-sa-partner-iran-just-attacked-us-partner-israel-guess-how-thatll-go-down-20240414

Heartbraking on the damage domestic abuse has, especially when the wort happens.
"...I can see all sorts of things that were happening in that relationship. If I knew then what I know now, I would have saved Hollie’s life..."
https://ww…

It feels like one of those facts of life, doesn't it? Whatever happens, there's just always laundry to do https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-h…

This https://arxiv.org/abs/2306.00574 has been replaced.
initial toot: https://mastoxiv.page/@arXiv_eco…

Life after (Soft) Default
Soft default, defined as a delinquency of 90 days or more, is a relatively common event in the credit market, in 2010 such episodes affected about 3 million individuals. Yet we lack a detailed understanding of what happens afterward. We use credit report data, on approximately 2 million individuals from 2004 to 2020, to shed light on individual trajectories after such event, and document enduring negative impacts. These effects persist for up to ten years post-event and manifest in lower credit…

It feels like #enshittification is an inevitable result of browsers gaining popularity.
Back in the old days, when I was still doing some WebDev, #Microsoft had a monopoly with its #InternetExplorer. It really sucked because they didn't care about web standards. For me, it meant testing my website under #Mozilla, #Opera (back when it used the Presto engine) and then adding awful hacks to make it work under IE (Safari was practically nonexistent in Poland). But the remaining browsers had their small foothold.
Then came #Google with its #Chrome, and we were really enthusiastic about it. Little did I know what was to come later. After all, it was a reasonably portable browser, with an open source engine, that followed standards. On top of that, it had a good chance of ending Microsoft's monopoly — and that was great news, because it meant that one day we wouldn't have to worry about compatibility with IE.
So there came a time when Chrome took over a major share of the browser market. Microsoft replaced IE with Edge. Eventually all the main browsers were using WebKit, Blink or a related engine which made life easier for WebDevs. Mozilla's small market share diminished even further.
Then things went to shit. Google showed its true colors, and abused its monopolist position in every possible way. Standards compliance ended up meaning very little, when the monopolist controls the standards. Being open source helps but there's only as much that volunteers can do when dealing with a corporate giant.
One positive aspect of this is that as GAFAM keeps shooting at their feet, Firefox started gaining popularity again. And it's a much better browser than it used to be back in the day. And what happens next?
Of course, as soon as Mozilla notices they're gaining market share, they're starting their own enshittification. Instead of embracing the users who appreciate what Firefox is right now, they are being greedy and trying to lure more people with buzzwords. This isn't going to end well.